I usually sit down and write about 10 things I learned the previous year. I sat down this year and it was just too hard. I kept coming up with a lot of negativity. We had a few hurdles to cross this year. Who didn’t, right? Don’t get me wrong, there were a lot of great things that did happen this year. One of our setbacks was that my husband had an injury which led to a not so welcome surprise after surgery. All is well but man did I learn some things along the way. Unfortunately some of those things weren’t so “sunshiny”. I decided I didn’t want to start the New Year dwelling on the negatives of 2012. I have a social media friend, Shannon that wrote a great blog post inspired by another Social Media guru Chris Brogan. I like their idea so here it goes… in 2013 I will define three words. Here they are and here’s why I chose them:
This is going to be the hardest one for me. Acceptance, I think I am pretty good at accepting others. It’s me that I have a problem with. I am a quirky, geeky, uncoordinated bundle of … bundle of emotions, kindness and love. I recently met someone that will be close to me. After only a few meetings she brought something to my attention. In our three conversations I repeatedly told her that “it was ok to be emotional”. What an eye opener since I don’t remember saying it even once and this person knew nothing about me. I know exactly where that statement came from. It has something to do with my husband’s injury. When he came out of surgery and we realized a few days later he had no use of his right hand I cried, I cried A LOT! I was scared and uncertain of what was ahead. I would spend the next few months watching him get frustrated during his recovery and this made me cry. You see…emotional. During this I would get mad at myself for being “weak”. I had a lot of people tell me how I should have reacted during this time. Here’s what I walked away from this with. No matter what or who others think I should be, I will spend 2013 embracing and accepting my emotional side, my geekiness, my quirks and all the other things that I fight that frankly, make me ME!
This one isn’t about me. This one is about teaching kindness to the world. One of my favorite quotes is “May I never get too busy in my own affairs that I fail to respond to the needs of others with kindness and compassion” ~Thomas Jefferson During my husband’s recovery the phone calls, texts and messages to us from people just checking on him meant the world to us. I try to be the one that makes time to respond to people with kindness and compassion. Having someone do that for us meant the world to me. It’s my mission to have at least one person a day feel kindness and my hope is that it will spread. Sometimes a simple act of kindness can change someone else’s day. “Be the change you want to see in the world” ~Gandhi I hope to be that change. Kindness, pass it on.
I don’t usually let myself dream. Maybe it’s my CS personality. This year I did and guess what?
My dream came true! My dream was to take my family on a week vacation to Disney World and stay on site. I set goals for myself and my business. If I met a certain goal we were going to Disney. In October I piled my husband and two daughters in the car. We didn’t tell the youngest (Girly12) where we were going until we got to the airport. I dared to dream and made her dream of finally going to Disney World a reality! I learned something from Walt Disney, “If you can dream it, you can do it” This year I will let myself dream again.
2012 taught me alot. Even the “not so sunshiny” things ended up being a blessing. 2013 will be my year of ACCEPTING me for who I am, geekiness, quirkiness, emotions and all; spreading KINDNESS everywhere I can and letting myself DREAM. I invite you to follow me on my journey and perhaps start a journey of your own. Happy New Year!